A Practical Guide To Knowing What You Want
And How To Get It

By Judy Rafferty B.Sp.Thy, MA, MAPS

After many years of working with people approaching, or in retirement, Judy has developed retirement specific strategies and tools that work.

Judy said "I wrote this book because so many people think only about whether they have enough money to retire on. But a successful retirement depends on much more than money." The book is based on research and experience.

The book covers all those niggling doubts such as; when will I retire, what will I do with myself, who will I be without work and how will my relationship change.
It provides information, ideas and strategies to address the many, and often unexpected, challenges to be found in retirement. It will help you to create a retirement vision, to know how to find purpose, meaning and life satisfaction, to navigate transition and the accompanying relationship changes, to deal with forced retirement through redundancy or illness, and avoid loss of identity and to learn the secrets of successful aging.

Research has shown that pre-retirement education which addresses more than financial planning is associated with retirement wellbeing.

Do you know how to dramatically increase your chance of surviving the first six years of retirement when mortality rates are high?

Surviving retirement is a good start but what about your mental health? Are you aware that people with the Alzheimer's related gene, but with a positive view of aging, are 49% less likely to develop dementia than those people who have the gene plus a negative view of aging? Developing dementia will have a major impact on your retirement.

The research is clear, educating yourself in pre-retirement about the issues raised in the book will improve your retirement experience.

Judy says "It's an easy to read book that is full of information, strategies and tasks to complete - either alone or with your partner or even your book club."

The book is available at good book stores -eg.The Book Tree, 456 Ruthven Street, Toowoomba, or online- eg

If you wish to know more contact Judy via her email address or ring her at Magnolia House Psychology and Therapies Centre on 0746393367.

Financial adviser and company director Paul Cooke said "I highly recommend this book for both men and women. It covers all of the many non-financial aspects of retirement in a friendly useable and individualised way."

An Amazon reviewer said, "I loved this terrific book that is jammed packed full of expert guidance on how to navigate retirement. I felt like I was sitting in a comfortable chair talking to Judy Rafferty as I read it and while I found some of the activities a little challenging, doing them really helped me
clarify what I want from this next phase of life and how to go about getting it. I would recommend this little gem to anyone who is faced with a transition in their life".

And a Goodreads reviewer wrote; "A great read. In oceans of self-help information this is something effective to use. I came across it when looking for advice for my life in retirement after stopping full time work some years ago. The book has much wisdom and is becoming a useful guide to help both of us through those decisions that we always thought were in the future. Even if retirement is not on the horizon the book has many tools for setting up good decision making for a good retirement."

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Over the years all the practitioners at Magnolia House have written articles for newsletters and journals. We are collecting them for others to read and copy in this section. We are happy for you to print any of these and to use them in whatever way is useful. The only thing we ask is that you acknowledge the authorship.

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